When Is It Okay to Beat Your Wife?

wife beater.jpgNever.



Personally, I gotta be an advocate against domestic abuse of all kinds.  Wife.  Girlfriend.  Kids.  Whatevs… don’t be beatin’ people, dear readers!  That’s my advice.

Of course, that’s not how it works everywhere.  Take the Middle East, for example.  Now I am no expert on Islam, but I have seen Law & Order and I know that in some Islamic communities, it’s pretty common practice for a man to beat his wife… to forbid she leave the house… to cover her entire body if she does.

In the west, I know that if you beat your wife and your name is Brett Myers you get to enjoy success as a Major League Baseball player and make at least $5 million a year.

I know that if you beat your wife and you play football, you might be Jim Brown and everyone will still say you were one of the greatest athletes to ever live.

scott lee cohen.jpgBut I also know that if you beat your wife and try to run for Lieutenant Governor in the state of Illinois, you BETTER THINK TWICE BUDDY!

And so it is that Scott Lee Cohen (D-Chicago) was recently forced to withdrawal from the Lt. Governor general election he earned a right to be in…  because he allegedly beat an ex-girlfriend.  And he probably beat his wife… though we can’t say for sure. 

We can say for sure (probably) that, if nothing else, Cohen is a creep.  I have no problems jumping on that bruited bandwagon, folks.  But here is my question: Isn’t Brett Myers a creep?  Isn’t Jim Brown a creep?  Sugar Ray Leonard?  Dr. Dre?  Chris Brown?  Darryl Strawberry?  Moses Malone?  Dwight Gooden?!?!?!?!

Don’t you see what I’m saying? 

Why is it okay to beat your wife and be a famous athlete or entertainer but it is definitely NOT okay to beat your wife and run for public office?

Believe me, no one knows nor cares (especially kids) who the Lt. Governor is.  Of any state.  No one cares.  Less than 20% of the population even voted in this election… so I assure you, no one cares.

But lots of people (again, especially kids) care about who is pitching for the Astros… or who the Sporting News considers to be the greatest professional football player of all time… or who made Eminem famous.

Like it or not, those are the people who influence your kids.  Those are the ones they look up to.  Those are the ones they emulate.

So good luck trying to explain to your kid why Cohen is an @s$ but Jim Brown is a god. 

This is why I don’t have kids.

Well, that and I fail in making women happy long-term (short-term, no problem).

Don’t hate me, ‘cuz I”m right.





  1. phillies_phollowers

    I think my brain might rupture after reading that…lol Seriously, good point. And having to explain to my kids all about the backwards crap that goes on in the world does make me ill sometimes. Like there are wife beaters and drug abusers in the Hall of Fame, but Pete Rose is out of baseball for betting his team would win? It is enough to make you wish you lived in an alternate universe; or maybe we already do and that is the problem. Ugh.


  2. redstatebluestate

    Jenn — I hear ya. I’m glad I don’t have to worry about that conversation (yet???)… judging from your writing, I’m sure you do a pretty good job of it though.

  3. angelsgirl012

    I couldn’t agree more!!! It’s a shame that athletes are “glorified”. I mean I admit I can get a bit over board on the respect and admiration towards certain people but I would never treat them as some higher power. As if they are any better than anyone else living in this planet. A wife beater is a wife beater whether you’re a plumber or a Hall of Famer.

    It’s funny, people hate on baseball for steroids but I don’t think we even have half the amount of jail birds than football does! It is difficult explaining things to children and certain times I don’t think it’s very fair at all. This also reminds me of this piece of news I picked up while surfing the internet about Lil Wayne and his whole jail stint for having illegal weapons or what not. His sentence was delayed so he could go to a dental appointment. If life was that easy for me……. Now human beings make mistakes but we need to stop making people in the media look godly and perfect


  4. redstatebluestate

    What? Mimi, are you saying Lil Wayne is NOT perfect? LOL. Just playin’… good points. I just don’t like double standards… so when it comes to politics, I think a bit more work has to be done before we just throw someone under the bus.

  5. Jane Heller

    Another Illinois politician did something wrong? Not possible! Seriously, you raise an interesting point. Baseball disciplines athletes for steroids and brawls, and there’s a general clause in their contract about “conduct unbecoming…” or something like that – i.e. a morals clause. So why not use it in the case of wife beating? Maybe because teams are reluctant to get involved on the domestic front?


  6. redstatebluestate

    Jane — I know, right? 6 months is just too long without an Illinois politics scandal 😉 What bothers me even more is how in the case of Jim Brown, Doc Gooden and other famous athletes, how those little social hiccups are glanced over like they weren’t important when evaluating a player’s career in whole. I’m not saying such a mistake or character flaw should dictate how we remember someone (see Ty Cobb) but I think the double standard for public figures should be, at least, addressed.

  7. raysrenegade

    American society has changed so much since the days I was a kid and you could spank your child in the store or pull his pants down at a restaurant table to punish them.
    Not saying it was right, but it was an accepted norm at the time.
    As society has changed, the use of violence by anyone to rectify a situation has also diminished 100 fold. It has not made us weaker or even less inclines to violence, but has taught us tolerance instead of fists or belts.
    This is a powder keg subject, but the real answer is simple “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”.

    Rays Renegade


  8. rrrt

    You raise a good question, Jeff. As an adult, I try to separate a player’s actions on the field (his job) from those off the field (personal life). I try to appreciate the athletic accomplishments even though I might detest the player as a person. But kids can’t do that (well, and probably some adults too). Same with musicians, actors, whatever. Thankfully this type of topic has not yet come up with my kids – I better start working on my answer now, it may take awhile to formulate a good one!
    Rants, Raves, and Random Thoughts

  9. redstatebluestate

    RR — I love the golden rule and yes, everyone should heed it. It would eliminate a lot of pain and suffering from the world. Seriously.
    Sue — Good idea. Until then, let us all hope more will follow Cliff’s plea for the golden rule, eh? I think that’s the most important thing I learned as a kid from my parents. Still works too!

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